Monday, November 9, 2015

11.9.15 Real American Hero

Last night we had a dear family friend to our home. This man was my home teacher growing up. He is a full blooded Navajo Indian. He participated in the Mormon exchange program where Navajo children left their homes and lived with Mormon families while going to schools. His name is Alfred, more often called Chief. He does not take offense to this name, he has lived too much life to worry about trivial things.
He is a real American hero.



Yes, those are real items he earned or survived to hold in his scared hand at my table last night. From telling us about walking through jungles deforested with Agent orange, to never taking your shoes off because the second you did the fire fight started again, to a buddy having something caressing his neck only to look up and see a 20 ft snake ascending a tree trunk via the back of your neck!

His stories were awesome and terrible. Watching people that were your friends and patrol being picked off by jungle snipers when they refused to just be quiet,  lay low and retreat. To learning how incessantly noisy Americans are from yawning, to coughing, to singing!

How intensely scary the dark night is when your enemies are ruthless and restless. How they had to look for the white tape on the explosives aimed at the enemy. If they didn't see it the enemy had belly crawled all the way to the explosive and turned them around and when the Americans pulled the cord they would shoot themselves.

He shared how at one bridge a motorcade was crossing and the designated mine checker got off to visually inspect for mines. The man declared it all clear, proceed on. Alfred heard a voice in his head telling him to get off the truck. He shrugged it off but the voice came again. This time he hopped off the lead truck and jumped into the second. The lead truck started across the bridge when it was blown sky high from a mine. He watched his group disappear into eternity.

A second time they were being air lifted and his platoon got on a helicopter. There was only room for 8 men and the two pilots. He had to ride with 1 or 2 others in the next chopper. He watched his platoon be blown up by the enemy just as his chopper took to the air.

He shared how important mail was and how much it means to him that people still have patriotism and pay respect to our Veterans.

This man volunteered for the service. His draft number was out of the immenient group, but his love of country and his fellow men stirred his heart and he went. He literally gave his life for our country. The right or wrong of the war is inconsequential to the love and courage to sacrifice self for the people at home.
HE shared the touching story of being visited by his local recent stake president and recounting getting a blessing while he was severely wounded and awaiting transport on a ship. He remembered the man's name but had never been able to find him. The stake president went to the records in Salt Lake City and found this man's name and phone number. Chief received a phone call from this man and was able to thank him for the priesthood blessing so long ago. The chaplain shared that when he was leaving an orderly working on the the ship informed him that 95% of the patients would die. Chief was and is a miracle.

He shared how he gained a sitation for bravery for saving a mans life by giving him a tracheotomy in the battle field. The man lived and was able to talk etc. I think that's the bar he's pointing to in the above picture.

He also shared how a man in his platoon suddenly stopped walking and declared "I'm on a mine, please help me, I don't want to die." Chief looked and thought and left his guys for a minute to go to the jungle to pray. He asked God to help him think of a way to save this man's life. When he came back he had no ideas. He asked his platoon what should be done. The most quiet man in the bunch who had never said a word suggesting all the men wrapping their flack jackets around the man's legs. They did this and chief instructed him to fall backward so his face would avoid the blast. The platoon went to the jungle to hide and avoid the shrapnel. Nothing happened chief went back. The man blubbered "I'm afraid I can't do this, I don't want to die." Chief encouraged him that he would be fine and to just do it it would all be ok. Then went back to hide.
A few seconds later BOOM! The men ran up to look Chief was worried so he hung back. He heard his men giggling "like a bunch of schoolgirls." He came up to see what was so funny. The man was fine with only a small amount of shrapnel in his backside. It was another miracle.

My kids listened with rapt attention. They heard the horrors of war. They heard the courage of a person who does his duty. They heard the quick result of shrugging off wisdom and the resultant death that came. They learned that smoking was deadly as it showed the enemy exactly where you were and was an easy target. How many men lost their life's to a bad habit with  a bullet in the brain.

He told us how soldiers were armed for battles. No grenades on outside of clothing because the pins would get snagged on branches. The reason for going commando- heat rash and rot, and the amount of ammo each would carry.

They saw his gnarled hand, observed his limping walk, and saw his glass eye. He was twice wounded in two different fire fights. Yet he is kind, he is real and he is an honor to know!


It was his birthday Saturday so we sang him Happy Birthday. We have taken cookies and cards to many veterans over the past two years and it has really touched many of them. Many stating they have never received such a gift or acknowledgement. Some talk and share a story or memento with the kids, some do not. Some cry, some say nothing. But it's teaching the kids that solders and battles are fought by real men and women they know. 

Many are dying, or living with unseen demons. Many were scorned when they returned. They are not given the power to make political choices concerning the style or length of warfare. They are brave men who love their fellowmen and have the courage and sense of sacrifice that is humbling. I am grateful for these kind of brave people. I'm very thankful my parents made this happen. It was an evening I hope we remember for a very long time.

Friday, November 6, 2015

11.6.15 Glimpses of Kiddos


These younger ones love this very patient creative sister. She was kindly letting the braid her hair. Of course two seconds later a fight erupted when they stole each other's section of hair. But they enjoyed it while it lasted. Aliza is a whiz at finding ways to calm, cajole, and be the way cool sister to these younger kids. She takes much weight off my shoulders. Funny, I think I have a picture somewhere holding Mark and John as toddlers and her playing with my hair back when it was long.


And these two my non-redheads. Reed was a blessing from God for Mark to not fall in the red mold. For so many years every person we encountered would look from the red 4 and then to Mark and ask what happened to him. His poor little face would crumble and I would want to slap them for being so dumb. Who cares what color he is. But then we got Reed and he is darker than Mark. Turning brown eyes, constantly year round tan- or at least colored skin from the whiteness the others endure. They are buddies. They both take seriously the farming life we live. Reed giving reports to Mark on the days activities and Mark instructing Reed on what to do. They wrestle and wrangle but are mostly friends. It's so interesting to me to see the friendships the kids develop.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

11.5.15 sugar cookies


Livy demanded we make butterfly cookies after loading cows. She was adamant that we make them butterfly shapes and no other. Thankfully grandma had this shape so we could make this happen.


 I'm still learning Livy. What makes her happy, compliant, and confident. It worries me that so many of her pictures she is being restrained and looks uncomfortable. It makes me crazy all the messes and chaos she creates. I let her vacuum yesterday at her insistence and she burned through a belt when she refused to turn the vacuum off after sucking up a sock.  My hands were full and I couldn't run to stop it. We had thoroughly picked up the big room but she had veered into another room full of un-known dangerous items to the powerful vacuum head. I think that may be it, she pushes past the bounds I set for her then we have trouble. That or I'm too distracted to keep up with her. I need to focus more. That's the conundrum of life currently where to focus. or how to to get all the things done that need to. However a friend last night wisely counseled just let it go, stop worrying about things not needing your attention! 

As I look at the pictures I realize the project did happen. No I was not patient and long suffering in letting them do it all. And I realize we need to work in a different area where there is more space for us all to be involved. We will try again and eventually I will figure these two helpers out. I have to remember that my most challenging children have been so because they are the most independent. They want to do big things NOW, and they want to do it Their way, and I want to do big things NOW and I want to do it MY way. Ahh the reflection of ourselves in creations we made.



It was fun to share the cookies with lovely ladies in my ward that evening. It caused reflection on the reality of the project, to hear their appreciation for the kind treat from a three year old. It was heartwarming to hear her tell her older sister she had made butterfly cookies that day. I've come to the place that I think the power struggles are worth the frustration and disappointment in myself as a not perfect mother.

Life in other people's homes is not what is happening at my house. From crying baby (90% of the day, she's been sick) to busy toddlers (who also vary between crying to happy screams) to independent 5 year old (who induces much of the noise from the others), to big kids with various personalities (who don't talk enough so then I worry what's going on with them? or they are boistrous then I go crazy because I can't hear them all at once and the noise level is just numbing!) it's just a different team.
Realizing and giving worth to our efforts to love, live, and last need to be more generously given by me the mom and master architect of where we are going. Yes I lost my cool and more than once wondered why I had chosen to this instead of proceeding with dinner? but it was ok. I have lots  to work on. I'm not sure how we ever get to perfection but I guess we just keep trying and fixing what we can as we ponder what went wrong and right and how to make the experience better. Ahh glorious living! It is a gift that I hope I'm making the most of.
Best to you today.

11.4.15 Hanging Chicken

A few days ago Reed came in and with alarm in his voice, informed me that he had found a hanging chicken! This sounded a bit preposterous so I continued my work and instructed him to go free it. Eventually after all three little ones went and verified the hanging chicken, I realized the need for my attention. I finished the dishes and headed out guessing I may need to free a chicken. This is what I found. Indeed a hanging chicken.


So I donned gloves- beating chicken wings are not pleasant- and unhooked the chicken. She wasn't so steady on her claws so we placed her in a bucket to recuperate and to protect her from her fellow birds.


She regained her balance and strength and flew out of the bucket. Then Reed surrounded her with buckets in a makeshift yard. She gained more strength and flew over those as well. So far no dead chickens and no more hanging chicken. The flying ability has sure been a great adaptation to these egg laying creatures. Makes them much less of a target and much more self-reliant.

In other farm news, I wish I had pictures of the cow jumping the 5 foot tall fence yesterday. It was amazing and scary! A horned 1 ton  beast jumping and simultaneously breaking through a fence is just a little unnerving. But cool heads and patience prevailed and she too was sent down the road. Life on the farm is full of interesting sights. Not all peaceful and happy - but the kiddos sitting out of harms way observing the frustrated adults had a good show. However, the steaks and roasts are delicious! So we persevere and endure some of the not pleasant things in full faith of the end result Dinner!

Hoping your not caught or needing recuperation today. Best to you and yours. 

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

11.3.15 Making Pie


After picking hundreds of pounds of apples there is only one next step. Making pie. Really it's not hard with so many helpers. Anything with a machine is a man job as Reed is demonstrating. And the cool long peel sliding quickly into the big bucket is just super fascinating. The baby showed some skill reaching the top of the table to taste apple pieces.


And the finished result. It's really hard to decide which is better fresh pumpkin or fresh apple pie? So we go back and forth. Bite of apple, bite of pumpkin. Man we are blessed!


And the real secret the daughter who was taught the pie crust recipe years ago and is the master mixer. It is seriously so easy, but multiple pies can get tedious. I'm so thankful and aware of the blessing my crew is to the good things we enjoy.


So we eat pie. Lots and lots of pie. We share pie too though, lots of pie. And yes our favorite pie is round. It is fresh and it is homemade.

We reviewed the lesson on the Divine Gift of GRatitude 
by Thomas S. Monsen. The story was shared about the family who always did an inventory before their Thanksgiving feast. And how the most memorable year was the year they thought they had nothing. Sunday while my kids were squabbling about nothing just random boredom I taught them that we are surely blessed to have so much that we had to choose to annoy each other because we are so safe and secure. Isn't it funny that where we have so much abundance that we make up problems?

We worry about things that really don't matter, our hair color, our weight, the variety of milk choices or pairs of pants. I know people, even here in my small town, who have big problems and great sadness. Aloneness, sickness- that will be deadly, mountains of debt that they have no way of paying, abuse, divorce, and many other hard things. I come home from these interactions and collapse in my chair. I am secure as I feel my family swirling around me and am so thankful to be safe back at home. Safe in the clutter, in the chatter and the many arms and bodies that need my hugs and attention.

I love being able to be home with my children. I love being a mom. I love my cave! I am so humbly and far too often overlooking, but grateful, for that gift my husband provides for me.

So we eat pie. We grow pie, we pick pie, we make pie, and we love pie! Life is good. Fall is grand round time! Best to you today.

Monday, November 2, 2015

11.2.15 October Wrap-up

Harvest is the best time of year around these parts. Reed spent many days in the combine. When the little girls got a chance they too hurried out the door to keep grandma company in the tractor. Anna captured their walk home. As they ran fast and sometimes quietly out the door I didn't get pictures in the machines. Reed got pretty handy at making lunches for him and the girls- I've discovered that is the secret to their contentment. A lunch box with snacks! I guess it's an exciting adventure to carry your own lunch in your lunch box to go work when you are little.


After repeatedly loosing and finding Johns Bear book, and then the leaders loosing and not finding the bear book we got his badge completed or re-completed. He is now on his last year of cub scouts! Lots of work to be done this year and the program has changed so we will be learning together.


Harvesting some of the pumpkins. They were really big, I wish I had a picture of Millie when she saw these the first time her eyes got huge and she said WOW! They really were.


Addie's body. I remember tracing and learning terms like leg, foot, hand etc but with the advancing information age they are labeling brains, lungs, chambers and flows of the heart, bones, and muscles. Awesome how education is advancing and regressing at the same time. She has a special student teacher right now who is working super hard to teach in creative interactive ways.


A new keep baby quiet in the car trick! Aliza went to a birthday party and this was one of the favors. Somehow Afton got a hold of it and was happy the entire 30 minutes in the car. She didn't get far just sucked the marshmallow-jello coating but she liked it!


And a close up of some of the Livy's hair cutting expertise. I had chopped Addie's on Friday using a small layering technique and Livy did the same procedure all around Millie's head. There's not much to salvage and I'm not really sure any of my cutting would help so we are just sighing deeply and realizing it's just hair it will grow back and this might happen again. Addie cut her's again and again till we got the drift and have just kept it short. Long hair is only fun on kids who do it themselves!!! (Not sure why everything is an exclamation point must be the extra energy from sleeping in today.)


And my two most dressed up kiddos. I cleaned under beds and the car last weekend and found piles of candy wrappers. This was pre-Halloween. I was shocked and disgusted at how much candy that I had no clue about was being consumed in my home. So I banned trick-or-treating. After two phone calls from special family members I relented. We went and visited and took treats to those who were giving us Halloween goodies. However, that candy is locked up until a movie night or a good day cleaning. I know I'm too bah-humbug about holidays. I just don't like the stress of it all. But I did realize after the family interventions that the visits and dress-up will be part of my children's childhood memories and so I need to relax holidays are not just about my hangup's about entitlements and silliness.
It was nice to visit each family and it was good to break-up the grind of daily living.


Now to get all the stuff done that needs to happen this fine first Monday of November. Best to you today!

Sunday, November 1, 2015

11.1.15 learning the scriptures

Scripture study can be many things. When we were newly married our hometeacher advised acting out scriptures. For example he suggested enacting Samuel the lamanite on the wall. Finally we tried this last night.
Our charcters- Addie as holy ghost protecting John.
John - as Samuel up on the chair wall
Kids- angry mob throwing socks trying to knock him down



It was fun
 Aliza also acted as holy ghost other kids just wanted to throw. I love small family moments! Best to you today.